If you and your soon-to-be-ex share children, it can significantly complicate your divorce. The state of Texas always puts the best interests of the children first in a divorce, and generally, most parents do the same as well. No matter what their parents’ relationship status is, kids deserve the support of both of their parents. Child custody is not about who’s right, it’s about figuring out how much time those children will spend with each of their parents.
Parenting lasts a lifetime
If you and your partner share children, you will continue to be connected for the rest of their lives. When adults without children separate, they can handle the financial questions and then move forward without ever speaking again, if they wish. As a parent, you will have to stay in touch with your former spouse for decades.
You and your former spouse will need to communicate about their education and health, exchange visitation, and work together to raise happy and healthy adults. You will continue to be connected to your former spouse even into the children’s adulthood as they marry and have children themselves. That’s why one of the best things you can do for your children – and for yourself – is to find a way to develop a positive relationship with your former partner.
The children during divorce
The question of child custody is one of the biggest ones addressed during a divorce. This is the question of who the children will live with primarily. Often, parents can agree on this, if one of them took on the primary child-rearing role during the marriage. The parent with primary custody will have the responsibility for making legal decisions on behalf of the children.
The noncustodial parent is still an essential part of raising the children. They will have visitation rights and generally pays child support to cover some of the costs of raising the kids. If you are a noncustodial parent, your kids still need your emotional support throughout their childhood as well.
Creating a plan for your family
There are countless different child custody arrangements. Some families trade children off every week, while in other cases the children visit the noncustodial parent in the summer, especially if they do not both live in San Antonio. In rare cases, parents decide to leave the children in the home and switch off themselves. You can come to whatever agreement works best for you and your family.
Determining custody can be a challenging and emotional process. You want to make sure that the children have the best childhood possible, and when that involves a divorce, it can be very difficult. The idea of having your children living elsewhere half the time is distressing for many parents, and that can make negotiating child custody difficult. That’s why you need a good lawyer from Zarka Law Firm on your side.
For the most part, divorce is a legal question. It requires you to divide financial assets and other property, and that is typically simply a question of math. Child custody, on the other hand, is so much more than math. It is a question of emotions, which makes it much more difficult.
When determining child custody, you must consider your children’s needs, and what the two of you will be able to provide them as separated individuals. It will require you to think about who can make the educational, health-related, and other legal decisions on behalf of the children until they reach adulthood. It will also require both parents to come to an agreement for how much time each will spend with the children. As you go through this overwhelming process, it helps to have a great San Antonio lawyer who has gone through it before. Give us a call today.